our memories will last forever…

“Ali was not the most timely when responding to texts, unless it had to do with books.   She loved to make recommendations for our nephews and nieces.  She always knew to ask age, reading levels, and what interested them.  Fancy Nancy was a favorite the past few years; our niece’s learned to read and host tea parties.”

“Whenever Ali would see a little girl without a bow on her head, she immediately would say, ‘What is wrong with those parents?! Where is the bow that little dollbaby’s head?!”

“Ali craved attention and persuaded many of us, unwillingly, to participate in games and actives we never would have imagined. In 1999 (give or take a year) Ali wanted to model –in the historically black sorority Delta Sigma Theta’s fashion show – she just would not to it by herself.   For whatever reason, I caved and we catwalked our way through the evening.   How did she convince us to do these things? It must have been love and friendship.  You may reference the airbrushed t-shirt on Ben in another post if you need proof.”

“Have you ever tasted a vodka spritzer?  Well, it is best served in a coffee mug with a single berry and enjoyed as the sun rises. Several of the girls road tripped to Buffalo for the weekend. After closing the bars, well after they were legally required to close, we returned to Katie’s house.   With a desire to continue the party, Ali served delicious spritzers. With nothing to mix with the vodka she just threw in a gently smashed strawberry!  We sang and danced until the neighbors left for church.”

“When I was pregnant with Nori, the little brat was breech. We were at a family function and I was joking around with Ali. Our family has a natural inclination to punch someone if they are within arms reach if they say something we don’t like. (Ali was also known to BITE people if their finger was too close to her mouth. This was still happening while she was in the hospital and of course instigated by both my parents.) So I teased her and she naturally punched me. In the stomach. NORI’S HEAD. After I screamed in shock, she felt bad but couldn’t contain her laughter.”

“The Owl.  Long before Ali had to relinquish ownership of the red owl lamp, we understood their parting would be emotional.   Jackie and I found a small white owl lamp, with a shade, to give her after Martha received the original red one as her wedding present.  Beautifully adorned with pink ribbons, it rests on Olivia’s nightstand next to the rocking chair.”

The XU girls with the red owl lamp at Ali’s wedding. I believe the lamp has made it through most of these girl’s possession.

The new white Owl.

 

 

our memories will last forever…*3*

“Ali had a way to get me to do stupid things even when I didn’t want to. She loved when I interpreted dance to an 80’s song. In college she made me put on a show at a backyard party. Yes, seats were set up for everyone. Of course, she interpreted danced with me until she couldn’t stop laughing at my ridiculous moves. I never understood how she could get me to dance in the middle of the street or on a bar, but I now looking back on those moment I know I do it because I loved hearing her contagious laugh.”

“I really enjoyed taking walks with Ali and Hula. Every now and then a stranger would say, “Ummm excuse me ma’am, but i think you are dragging your dog behind you.” I’d be lying if i said this only happened a couple times! What can i say, we got in the groove and well, I guess Hula didn’t.”

“I would love to brag to Ali about the amazing deal I just got on my new pink coach purse. She’d be so jealous! I miss the silent competition between us that we never acknowledged…she was like my shopping team mate, always there to absolve me of any guilt from spending too much!”

“I’ll never forget the time Ali organized several PM teachers to perform the dance to “We’re All in This Together” from High School Musical at an assembly.  She had us watch the instructional video over and over until we got it just right.  She even adjusted some of the steps for those of us who were a little less coordinated.  Just as we were about to perform in from of the entire student body, the buses arrived and they started to dismiss 400 students.  That didn’t stop Ali.  She got us out there on the gym floor and had us do the entire routine…with students walking between us.  We did, however, get a standing ovation…from the 10 students who stayed behind to watch.”

“Out of Uniform days had a completely different meaning when Ali was around.  EVERYONE had to dress up on theme days.  She would walk around with props and hats to put on people who didn’t dress up.  And if you refused, she made you wear a sticker to let everyone know how lame you were!”

“Whenever i needed to talk to an adult who wasn’t related to me and would never talk down to me, I always went straight to the library. Ali never judged me, listened to my problems, and gave me advice only when I asked for it. And I always could count on her for a piece of candy to make me feel better!”

“If there ever was a baby to be soothed or put to sleep, Ali was the first to grab that baby and take it right to Sleepytown. Even if the baby was a stranger to her, she was always willing to hold it to help the mom.”

“One time I looked at Ali’s phone and saw 102 emails. I counted 89 from Zulily, Babies R Us, Totsy, the Gap, and eBay. That girl was the queen of finding deals on anything before buying it. She was also addicted to online shopping, I’m afraid.”

“Whenever I needed to dress up for a theme party, I knew exactly who to call. Ali has BINS of random costumes and clothes from all the decades with accessories and wigs to compliment.”

“Ali is the only person I know who could convince her husband to get His & Hers airbrushed t-shirts made on vacation….AND have him wear it!! I just love how Ben would do anything she asked him to do.”

 

our memories will last forever… *2*

another installment of the things we love and miss about ali. i’d like to make this a friday tradition if you all can continue to send me stories!

*****

“funny how every time we went shopping, she’d spend more of MY money than hers.”

“My nephew’s first birfday is sloooowly creeping up and I can’t help but think about how much fun it is going to be. So I daydream about his party and try to come up with things that his cool Auntie Em can do to make it more fun. Then I thought back to how much I loved it when Ali got Nori to “wash” her hair with cake on Nori’s first birfday. So I hope on March 11th Ali will be helping me to get lil Sammy to “wash” his hair, too!”

“the ali/hula dynamic gave me endless amusement. at the time it was pretty much a love/hate relationship. i.e.: i hated when hula would poop and pee EVERYWHERE but outside, and eat the crotches out of any laundry i left anywhere but behind the closed doors of my room, but i loved watching ali treat her like a human being. yes, hula would sleep in bed with ali and follow her around with every step she took, but i’m thinking specifically of the clothes. i mean that dog had a better wardrobe than a lot of toddlers i know. it was so funny to take walks with ali and hula and just watch people’s confused, somewhat-amused reactions to the dog with clothes. i think ali really got a kick out of those reactions in particular.”

“I also get a personal thrill out of going places I am not supposed to.. Fly under the radar or use an English accent. I even surprised myself with that one.”

“she always so kindly told me how hillbilly i was with my 3/4 chipped off toe polish.”

“the way you found a way of having everyone else offer to be your chauffeur. And when you did drive, you sometimes insisted driving in an awkward one-foot-up-on-the-dash position. (this comes from my grandma, whom Ali had never met, offered to drive her to my wedding location. my grandma asked her a little shocked like “is your leg injured?” haha!) always in comfy mode!”

“I make a prize winning apple pie, but Ali wouldn’t eat it because she said fruit pies felt funny in her mouth. I wonder if they make apple pie in heaven….maybe she’s hooked up with my mom and ended up trying a piece.”

“Ali, how come after all these years of yelling at you about removing your shoes and leaving them in the FR in the middle of the passage way into the entry are your still doing it at 30 yrs old? ‘Because I forget and I know you’ll move them out of the way if it is driving you nuts. AND you’re my mom, you love me in spite of it!!!!!’ ugh…”

“Ali had given many of the Xavier crew nicknames in college. My senior year she decided to change my nickname from “Mary Pat” to “Mary Slut”. Please note that I was far from being a slut due to my catholic upbringing. I believe I inherited the name for making her go out with me every Thursday night, where I showed off my “wonderful” dance move at the late night (fake) rave to try to get the attention of a boy I liked (who is now my husband). The name stuck even after college. When I was getting married 5 years ago, she called my “Mary Slut” at a wedding shower in front of non-Xavier people including my mother. After that day we had an agreement, she could only call me by that name if we were at a bar around the Xavier crew. I hated that nickname, but I’d pay anything to hear her call me “Mary Slut” again.”

“Ali had a way of not spending money. We drove all the way to Buffalo, NY one weekend and she didn’t pay for any of the gas bills. She may have been tight with money, but she’d give you the shirt off her back.”

“I remember Ali’s first PM Happy Hour at O’Bryon’s.  She had made a neat little pile of peanut shells on the table and asked what she was supposed to do with them.  She didn’t believe that she was supposed to throw them on the floor.  She had to call the waitress over to make sure it was OK because she “was never allowed to just throw food on the floor.  Who does that?”  Once she was given clearance, she let those shells fly with one smooth swoop of her arms…and a very loud WEEEEEEEE to go with it!  That was the beginning of peanut shell baseball…using the menu to send shells flying across the bar!!”

“Ali said this referring to her hair color while I was mixing up her color, “So how do you know what to mix up?  Is it called ‘hooker blonde’?”  I now refer to “REALLY BLONDE” as HOOKER BLONDE….love it!  Made me laugh! (Love me some HOOKER BLONDE!  Who doesn’t?!)”

i invite you to share any funny moments you’ve had with ali. email me at pace@loft3pd.com. they are supposed to make us laugh though, so don’t get too sappy! not too long, just something like you see above. lets show the world how quirky but awesome ali is.;)

peace, melanie

our memories will last forever…*1*

i’ve asked some of ali’s family and friends to share funny some things we never thought we’d miss about her and things she said or did that made us laugh. i’m just tryin to keep things light around here whenever i can. 🙂 remember the book fair is this sun & mon!

*****

“When we’d go to rock shows or festivals, you’d be back stage faster than the band would, conning yourself into getting rad VIP gifts! I.E. those awesome shoes you got for acting like G-Love’s g/f at lollapalooza one year.”

“she got regular calls from a grown man who wears diapers as a fashion statement. at least i think that’s why he wears them… p-nut would call ali everytime george clinton and parliament funkadelic came into town. i’m pretty sure she even had him programmed into her phone? and sometimes he’d even just call her to say hi (by “sometimes” i mean, i know this happened at least once that i personally witnessed…) so that was one regular concert where ali was guaranteed a backstage pass and the occasional stage dance!”

“when we played indoor soccer together in high school ali did not exactly take the competition seriously. she used to run around the court with no particular regard to the actual game that was happening. just kind of running in circles laughing, and would scream-shriek if the ball came anywhere near her, and/or she actually had to make contact with the ball. i thought this was hilarious.”

Ali Nunery on how to score VIP band swag: “You silly girl, just act confident, claim to be a girlfriend. And get the hell out of dodge before they realize you aren’t!”

“Only person I’ve come across who showed up for dinner in her pajamas………and the tops and bottoms usually didn’t match.”

“I found out Olivia picked up more little tidbits from her mom than I realized…..at such a young age. Instead of playing with her toys….she carries them around in paper shopping bags…..most often 3 at a time, and pretty heavy. she threw two of them over her shoulder yesterday and one in the other hand just walking around the apt.”

“I was able to spend a few days helping and visiting with Ali. As I left I said, “OK, so now we’ll go back to me texting or emailing you every day and you responding whenever the heck you feel like it!” She started laughing and said, “OK!” That was Ali!”

“Every time I put on mascara. I put on one extra coat. Because when you think you have enough. You need one more coat!”

“I second the mascara comment and would add that I can’t look at or eat cotton candy without thinking of Ali.”

 “Lily Pulitzer dresses, guacamole, and zulily have invaded my life thanks to Ali.”

“her phone would ring and buzz and ring some more and she would totally ignore whomever it was. but God forbid zulilly send a text with girlie girl outfits for Olivia on sale and the world stopped while she bought another outfit-cuz she ALWAYS bought another outfit.”

 i invite you to share any funny moments you’ve had with ali. email me at pace@loft3pd.com. they are supposed to make us laugh though, so don’t get too sappy! not too long, just something like you see above. let’s show the world how quirky but awesome ali is.;)

peace, melanie